Another Lesson

O.K., folks, here's another lesson on What Not To Do.

[Seriously, I should be writing an advice column, don't you think? If someone, somewhere, took me up on this, heartache would be saved. Or at least headache. Really, someone take me up on this, please.]

So. You're a single guy, and you've been out with a particular woman a couple of times. You both had a lot of fun. There's no pressure, you're just having fun. So, you haven't seen each other in about a week, and you call her up. She's casual. You chat. You tell her you'd like to see her soon. So far so good.

The problem? You have no plan. None whatsoever.

You give her no clue about when you'd like to see her or what you'd like to do. Your conversation is more along the lines of that of a good acquaintance who is just clueing her in to the fact that he might like to glimpse her in person sometime in the next few weeks. No rush.

But wait, it gets worse. When she takes the initiative and suggests a particular night, you're evasive. You might be going out of town, you say. You're not sure yet. You tell you'll know the following day, and you'll give her a call and let her know.

Can it get even worse still? Yes it can! You fail to call her the next day as promised. And the night she suggested is the following night.

Guess what she's going to do? That's right, Einstein--she's going to make other plans. At the very least, she's going to tell you she's made other plans, whether she has or not.* What's more, she's completely turned off by your wishy-washy rudeness. She's going to turn you down the next time you suggest an actual plan for a date. In fact, she may very well stop taking your calls altogether.

Idiot.

*By the way, I did make actual other plans. You can go piss off, Aaron. (Not Aaron from work, by the way! A different Aaron. But hi, Aaron from work!)